After many years in this scene I have often struggled to find the words to define a Dominatrix’s role, but have fallen short due to the somewhat esoteric nature of what we do. I believe I have finally found the words as I have now come closer to finding my place.

A Dominatrix is a Magician.
She shapes reality.
She makes fantasy a reality.
She is a BDSM Psychodrama Artist.
She creatively enables the submissive masochist to live out a fantasy – safely and sanely.

There is a common misconception about the trappings of BDSM – that a Domina requires costume, equipment and a dungeon to do what she does. The truth of the matter is that a skilled Domina can accomplish an excellent scene in any setting, with or without equipment, with or without saying a single word. Do not underestimate the value of a look. A Domina in her power knows these things about herself.

That said, a highly motivated Dominatrix will employ as many available tools as possible to "set the stage", so to speak. She will use costume, a creatively designed environment, "props" and sound to set a tone - a mood - for the action that She is planning.

Let us not be delusional, however. A successful scene is a two way street. For the submissive to realize the potential of a scene, he must completely surrender to the experience. Reluctance to do so will not allow the magic to unfold. A Domina of any skill level will not be able to overcome the negative impact of an uncooperative client’s reticence to fully “go there”. The submissive is an important part of the equation that makes up the scene. Think twice before calling me.

Are you willing to completely surrender to me that you may
fully know deep D/s experience?